I have not been on in awhile, so thought I would check in. My husband lost his job last week unexpectedly. We had to move back to Arkansas. He has thankfully found a new job, but will not start for a few weeks. We are having to put Bentley down tomorrow. We have been battling his fear aggression for a little over a year. We have tried several medications, had several medical test done to make sure he is healthy and all is well, and have been working with a great behaviorist/trainer to help with his issues. He had made great progess we thought.
he had not had an "episode" in over 6 months until the other night. We drove from Mandeville, LA to Arkansas to move. When we stopped and tried to get him out of the truck like we always do - he came after me and bit me on my forearm. I had to go to the ER and get 20 stiches. The ER got the police involved and since this was his second bite - they are wanting him put down. We are living in a small town and te only vet is closed on the weekends, so we have to take him in on Monday. Then when we were trying to get him to walk into hos new house he went after my husband. luckily he did not get bit as Bentley grabbed his pants leg. I am sure the move has increases his stress and he is scared. I am so upset - I love this dog more than anything and have tried to fix his problem. This is killing me and I am not sure what else to do. I have a 6 year old daughter that I am very worried about getting bit. Since Bentley started having issues we have kept them seperated, but I do not think him staying so medicated he does not want to move or having to stay locked up all the time is fair to him. He can be so loving at times, but when he is acting up - there is no controlling him. Now with the police involved I am not sure what to do. All I know is that I want the best for him and us.
OMG Jana, how awful.
Are you going to be allowed a choice?
I would be scared for your daughter's sake also.
That is just the saddest thing.
I'm sure dogs can have mental disorders just like people can, and sometimes we just can't fix what's wrong.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this.
Cathy
when she first came home
Jana
I am so sorry that you're going through this
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers today.
"I love Ozzy"
Karen and Ozzy
Oh my goodness
Jana, I'm so sorry about all of this. What a nightmare for you...
Such a hard decision..my thought/hugs/prayers to
you and your family today...
not just my bulldogs, but my heart & soul!!
oh jana........
you know we are here for you. what a tought thing.....
Mack 'n' TMaeMack
I'm so sorry!!!! (((((( Hugs )))))))))) (nm)
I am so sorry about all of this.
With all the bad things going on, this must be the worst. We're here for you if you need us.
Woof!
I'm very sorry Jana
Years ago when my nephews were small, we had a non-bulldog rescue that bit both of the boys. We chalked the first bite up to the fact that my nephew startled the dog. But, after the second bite, we could no linger trust the dog around the kids and had him PTS. It was a very hard decision but the right one for our family.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Hugs to you!
I am so sorry for all that you are going through
What a difficult situation. I know there is not an easy answer and I really don't have any advice. But I will be keeping you in my thoughts and am sending you big hugs.
Janice
so sorry...
you are doing the right thing.
Really sorry to hear this
I will definetly send prayers your way. This is incredibly hard for you and the doggie.
Thanks Gary...
I did not realize you lived in mandeville, too. We did not bring Gerogia with us when we moved. We wanted to see how Bentley was without her as he did go after her once. She is 9 and does not make trips in the car well, so she stayed behind with my mom and dad who she loves. Bentley did great without her. I did consider rehoming him and discussed this at great links with his trainer and vet. They both feel that a new home will only increase his aggression. The vet has even taken Bentkey home with him to watch him in action as he did not have a dog. Bentley was terrified and would not eat or go outside. We were not even able to board him as he acted up and we had to go get him. He has not always been like this. He is 4 now and he was well socialized and went through puppy school. Not sure what happened, but hate this more than anything.
Thanks for the offer to have helped my husband. We really liked Mandeville and loved the weather! We had only moved there for this job as we did not have any family there. When he lost his job - we decided to come back closer to faamily. We are planning on visiting there again and coming for Mardi Gras next year. Will let you know when we get back there and maybe we can meet up some where, would love to meet your gang!!
I wander if rescue might take him from YOU ...
they might have the resources to work with him and his issues.
i would contact a rescue group and see if they can take your bulldog from you..
How awful for you. It may not mean much to you at this
point, but I try to remember the serenity prayer. It helps me see what I can and can't accomplish and to understand in doing good, which you have for your boy, doesn't always resolve the way I wish. Thinking of you.
And always .....Winston
I live in Mandeville
I wish I had known you were living nearby. A few suggestions . . . have you considered rehoming him? There may be some factor within the dynamic of your family that sets him off that may not be present in another family, especially if he would be the only dog in that family. As humans, I think we probably overlook or don't catch some of things that may be going on in the mind of one of our dogs. For example, altho you may think he loves your other dog, he may actually dislike him and be constantly stressed over the situation, such as constantly worrying that he won't get his fair share of the food, won't get as much attention, etc., even if we think the situation is the total opposite. Thus, I would first try to rehome him, with full disclosure, of course.
Good luck. I am sorry to hear all of you are going thru such a difficult situation. I wish I had known y'all were living in Mandeville. I might have been able to help your husband get a new job. Can't guarantee it but I would have tried.
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Please, PLEASE consider re homing him through a rescue. We bought two sister bullies three years ago. We had the same problem with one of the sisters; agression towards both smaller animals, her sister, and in the end me. I got bit trying to keep her from hurting our smaller dog. We contacted the Bulldog rescue near us, explained the situation... and she was able to re home the dog. It was a painful decision, but we wanted to give her a chance, we'd already tried everything else. In the end, it worked out!!! A single parent, with only one child, no other pets adopted her, and she's been happy as a clam ever since. It was amazing, the change. Letting the vet observe her, I'm afraid, isn't a good indicator for how the dog would be in the long run. I'm not criticizing you, please don't take it in a negative way, I just hate to see the dog not have a chance. Our girl wound up in a wonderful home, became the mascot for the child's team, and is a dream dog for them. I miss her, I love her and always will, but I am comforted knowing that we gave her a chance. Please think about it, and contact a bulldog rescue!!