Conflicted About Duffy Being Put Down and Travel and Life

Duffy is 14 and his life is basically sleeping, eating and peeing.  He still goes up the stairs when I don't catch him but I carry him down the stairs.  His ears perk very little.  He pees on his bed all the time - probably because we now tolerate it.  I get him outside every two hours.  He no longer walks other than to pee, poo and eat.  There is less and less interaction with us and Mabel our other 10 year old female bully.

I am as an owner dealing with end of life as he is starting to stumble.  I just wonder when.  Sometimes I hear from other owners that "the dog will tell you when" (i.e. they can't get up?).  

I will not do a belly sling.  I wonder if any of you owners put the dog down earlier than belly sling time?

We are taking a family trip for a week and while I am sure he might make it through....and we have Mabel his 10 year old gal pal to keep him company in the sun room, I would hate to not be here if he turns for the worse.  Yet I don't think I have it in me to put him to sleep unless he can't move....

The last year has not seemed that great for him.  I get that its like he is a 100 years old in human years.....

I want to make the right decision by him.  

Kathy Chester Newman and Jessa's picture

We are going through something similar...

Oliver is 11 and his back is bad and his back legs are getting weaker and I can see he has some pain.  He is on several different medications for it, but he still enjoys his food and has control of his bodily functions.  I'm dreading having to make that decision.  I've always felt that when they lose interest in their food it would be time.  Good luck to you both.

karonelaine's picture

Prayers for what you decide

to do. If it's me I would not put him down so easy. If he is still walking and eating and still going outside he still have some life to live. You said he was 14 years. Is he and English Bulldog or mix? I seldom see English Bulldog 14 years old. I would like know what you did to keep him alive for so many years. Your Mind and Heart will tell you the right time after all your know your boy best.  

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Karonelaine

Hi....

So I didn't love him any more or any less than the dedicated owners on this site.  I didn't get him any more or less exercise - as he always hated walking.  He was always somewhat trim - ranging from 55 - 62 pounds....while not light he wasn't a large beefy bulldog.

Duffy was bred from Alice Malson out of California.  I thought she was great but I hear from online she was accused of being a puppy mill or something...LOL.  I think much of this comes down to genes.  He just maybe lucky.

He had muscle mass until he was 11 or so.  I used to go to Lloyd Shaw, DVM in Woodstock IL and he had 100s of Bulldog patiends and the oldest he said he saw back a few years ago was 13 years old.

I am not taking the thought of putting him down lightly - hence my post.

He still eats, still barks, still climbs stairs....he walks slowly, ears perk up rarely...no tail waging (hasn't for years), bumps into walls, pees a few times a day on his bed.  I carry him downstairs to pee outside.....he eats, pees and sleeps.

I do hold him and he licks me.  So I am likely not to put him down....but I wonder if other owners struggle too?

We have resuable / washable pee pads and our utility expense has risen due to more washing of the bedding.

I have Ramydl and glucosmine but I will look at Tamacor (sp?) with my Vet.

I will miss him....its just such an ominous cloud on the horizon. 

Kathy Chester Newman and Jessa's picture

We use Tramadol for Oliver's back...

alongwith rimadyl and another drug the ortho doctor gave us called Galbapentin, which is a drug for nerve receptors.  

I understand what you are going through.....

Our old boy has been having back issues for going on two years. We have him on  natural supplements and amino caprioc acid to slow down his issues. Each winter we feel blessed that he has made it through another as the cold and snow is difficult for him. I have thought long and hard about what we will do when the time comes.  He still gets up does his daily routine enjoys butt scratches and ear rubs and has that bulldog appetite. We 've agreed that if and when he cannot walk on his own and looses control of bodily functions or is in pain that will be time. I think that in your heart you will know when it is time to say goodbye. Until that time comes love him hug him and talk to him. He may not interact as much but believe me he knows you are there! Bully hugs and prayers to you and yours!  

mrhig2004's picture

It has been 3 months now

I believe the dog`s quality of life is the first consideration, which I know all of you agree with. Whether they slowly deteriorate, or go suddenly like Mr. Higgins did, the pain is still agony. 

Although I have rescued a bulldog/Cavalier Spaniel mix and am very busy training this boy who was never socialized, my pain remains and I still find myself crying almost daily. I am so sorry so many of you have elderly dogs who are slowing down. I know first hand how painful the loss is. I have lost 2 bulldogs.

I am sure the correct decision will be made, I am never sure how the dog "let`s you know." but I was not in that position.

I miss this board and talking about my special boy. Enjoy your bullies while you can.

Deborah Watson

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